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R – He wasn’t terribly wealthy, but he was well-educated, and he came from a
good background. His family owned a village, and were like princes. And all
his relatives were suitable. He was 22, and studying law.
I – And your father chose him?
R – Yes.
I – Why, do you know?
R - I think he thought that money wasn’t everything. He didn’t want the…you
know, he didn’t want the family’s money. Education was more important. If he
is well-educated, he will learn it later. Actually, Shyam, that’s my husband’s
name, didn’t want to get married. He wanted to wait, but you know, his father
persuaded him. You know, when he came to my house to meet my father, he
was very badly dressed, because he wanted my father to refuse him, so he could
say to his father “Look, they didn’t like me.” But luckily my father did like him
and …. So he had to say “yes”.
I – And did you meet him that day?
R – Yes. First my family spoke to him, and then they called me in, and we
talked for four, four or five minutes. My father decided immediately.
I – And did you agree?
R – Of course. My father had decided.
I – But did you prefer the second?
R – Um…well I wasn’t sure, actually. I left it to my father.
I – And what happened next?
R – Well, after a certain time, there was a special day when I went to see his
family and he came to see my family. It was a sort of engagement party. But we
– you know – we used to be on the phone every day, we’d see each other
regularly, but never without a chaperon. We were married ten months later.
I – And how long have you been married?
R – Oh for 22 years now.
I – And…. It’s been a successful marriage? Have you been pleased with your
father’s choice?
R – Oh…. Yes, of course.
I – Now you have two sons, don’t you, one twenty-one and one fifteen. Are you
going to arrange their marriages?
R – Yes, we are planning them now. We’ve… we’ve been asking families in
India for some time, and we’ve found some suitable ones.
I – Do you think that the system of arranged marriages is a good one? I can see
that you have had a good marriage, but what about other people? How common
is this system of arranged marriages?
R – Well, most marriages in India are still arranged in this way, and generally it
is a system that works. Of course it depends a lot on the – you know – family
choosing the right person, but one reason it works is that the couple enter the
marriage not expecting too much, if you see what I mean. Actually – actually,
there are many more divorces between couples who thought that they were
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